“Do everything in a dignified and orderly way” (1 COR. 14:40).
1, 2. What does Jehovah want for engaged couples?
Jehovah wants the bride and groom to thoroughly enjoy their wedding day and to have a happy and lasting marriage. The Bible shows that marriage is a gift from Jehovah; therefore, he wants it to be a source of joy, not stress or unnecessary conflict.
But Jehovah also desires something more: that this special day honor him. When couples make decisions with Jehovah in mind, they demonstrate love and gratitude for all he has done for them. This helps us realize that, although a wedding is a personal event, it is also a spiritual occasion.
In the congregation we see that couples who seek to please Jehovah from the beginning usually start their marriage with peace, unity and a solid spiritual foundation, which is very comforting.
WHY HONOR JEHOVAH
3. What should Christian couples consider when planning their wedding, and why?
Christian couples should consider Bible principles when planning their wedding, because Jehovah is the Creator of marriage. This means that his perspective is paramount, above traditions, trends, or social expectations. This leads us to understand that a wedding is not just “our day,” but an occasion connected to a sacred arrangement established by God.
When engaged couples consult Jehovah’s Word and allow it to guide them, they honor the Author of marriage. In daily life, this is reflected in balanced decisions that promote peace and dignity. Furthermore, this approach sends a clear message to family and friends that Jehovah takes first place in their new family.
4. What is another good reason to take Jehovah’s viewpoint into account when organizing a wedding?
Another very powerful reason is that Jehovah is our heavenly Father and our best Friend. The engaged couple wants to protect this precious friendship and not do anything that might upset him.
This makes us think about how much we value our relationship with Jehovah. Do we see him as someone distant or as a close friend whose feelings matter to us?
Remembering all that Jehovah has done and will continue to do for us, it is natural to want to honor him on our wedding day as well. In the congregation, this approach strengthens spirituality and sets a fine example for other young people who may also be considering marriage.
HOW TO HONOR JEHOVAH
5. How can the Bible help engaged couples make good decisions about their wedding?
The Bible helps engaged couples by giving them principles, but not detailed rules about how a wedding should be. This allows each couple to make decisions according to their circumstances, tastes, and customs, always respecting local laws. This makes us think that Jehovah trusts us and expects us to use our discernment.
When decisions are based on Bible principles, a wedding will honor Jehovah regardless of its size or style. In daily life, this approach teaches the couple to make decisions together, which is essential for marriage. Furthermore, it avoids unnecessary arguments, because the goal is not to please everyone, but to make Jehovah happy, which brings true satisfaction.
6. Why is it important for engaged couples to meet the legal requirements for marriage? (Romans 13:1, 2).
It is important to comply with legal requirements because Jehovah expects us to respect higher authorities. Marriage is not only an emotional or spiritual commitment but also a legal one. This helps us realize that honoring Jehovah includes obeying the laws of the country where we live.
When engaged couples are well-informed and seek help if needed, they avoid problems and demonstrate a responsible attitude. Within the congregation, this sets a good example and protects the good name of Christians.
Furthermore, starting a marriage in an orderly and legal manner contributes to the couple's peace of mind, allowing them to enjoy their wedding calmly and without unnecessary worries.
7. What kind of atmosphere should there be at weddings?
The wedding should have a dignified, joyful, and spiritual atmosphere that reflects the fruitage of the spirit, not the spirit of the world. This helps us to understand that a wedding is not just a party, but a serious and beautiful occasion. The Bible discourse, presented with love and dignity, helps everyone to see marriage as a gift from Jehovah.
In congregational life, this type of atmosphere strengthens the faith of those who attend and leaves a positive impression even on non-Witnesses. That is why many couples choose the Kingdom Hall, as it is a place that naturally promotes respect, simplicity, and spirituality, helping them to honor Jehovah.
8. What can the bride and groom do to create a dignified atmosphere at the celebration? (Romans 13:13).
To maintain a dignified atmosphere at the celebration, the couple should avoid reflecting the spirit of the world. This includes controlling alcohol consumption, choosing appropriate music, and keeping the volume at a level that allows for comfortable conversation.
This leads us to believe that even small details greatly influence the overall atmosphere. In daily life, being prepared demonstrates maturity and love for others. In the congregation, these decisions prevent awkward situations and protect the consciences of those attending.
When the celebration is balanced and respectful, everyone feels comfortable and can enjoy themselves without excess, knowing that Jehovah is being honored.
9. What should the couple take into account regarding what will be done during the celebration?
The couple should ensure that everything done during the celebration is appropriate, uplifting, and respectful. This includes speeches, videos, images, or entertainment.
This leads us to believe that not everything that is funny or popular is necessarily appropriate. The goal is to honor marriage and Jehovah, not to cause embarrassment or discomfort.
In our congregation, we highly value avoiding indecent comments or sexual connotations. Informing participants in advance helps prevent problems. A clean and respectful environment leaves a positive impression and strengthens everyone's sense of good conscience.
ADDITIONAL COMMENT
The couple should make sure that all entertainment is appropriate, respectful, and uplifting, and that it honors Jehovah. While some humor is acceptable, indecent or inappropriate comments should be avoided. Everything done should reflect respect for marriage and for Jehovah.
10. Why should couples be modest when organizing their wedding? (1 John 2:15-17).
Couples should be modest, because Jehovah values honoring him, not seeking undue attention. This makes us consider whether we are trying to impress someone or to please Jehovah. Simple weddings avoid debt, reduce stress, and help maintain peace between the bride and groom.
The examples in the article show that modesty brings lasting benefits. In daily life and in the congregation, a simple wedding sends a powerful message: that spiritual things are more important than material things. Furthermore, starting marriage without unnecessary financial burdens allows couples to focus on spiritual goals and on joyfully serving Jehovah together.
ILLUSTRATION
Images of brother and sister weddings in different parts of the world. 1. In a Kingdom Hall, the bride and groom are seated facing the brother who is giving the wedding talk. 2. At an outdoor wedding reception, a brother and sister are congratulating the newlyweds. 3. Two newlyweds are lining up with their guests to serve themselves buffet-style food. 4. At an outdoor wedding, the bride and groom are standing facing the brother who is giving the talk.
Anywhere in the world, we Witnesses can celebrate simple, beautiful weddings that we will remember fondly. (See paragraphs 10 and 11.)
11. How can the bride and groom show modesty in their dress and grooming? (See also the pictures.)
They can demonstrate modesty by choosing decent, appropriate clothing that doesn't draw excessive attention. While it's natural to want to look good, clothing shouldn't become the highlight of the wedding.
This makes us think about what message we will convey through our appearance. In the congregation, it is greatly appreciated when clothing reflects respect for Jehovah and for the occasion.
A balanced appearance helps focus attention on the spiritual meaning of marriage, not just its outward appearance. Furthermore, this approach sets a positive example for other young people who are observing.
12. Why should engaged couples make sure to reject customs that are not in accordance with what the Bible says?
They must reject them because many customs are related to false religion, superstitions, or the occult—things that Jehovah disapproves of. This leads us to believe that not everything traditional is acceptable for a Christian.
Investigating the origins of customs helps us make informed decisions in daily life. This attitude protects our spirituality. In the congregation, it demonstrates courage and loyalty to Jehovah, even when there is cultural or family pressure. Although it may be difficult to say no, doing so honors Jehovah and strengthens the Christian conscience of the couple.
13. How can engaged couples show that they view gifts as Jehovah does?
The couple can demonstrate this by thanking everyone for any gift without creating pressure or expectations. The Bible encourages giving cheerfully, not out of obligation. This makes us reflect on the importance of our heartfelt attitude. In the congregation, it is highly valued when the couple doesn't make guests feel uncomfortable.
Appreciating both a simple gift and a larger one demonstrates humility and gratitude. This approach strengthens relationships and reflects Jehovah’s viewpoint, who values the love with which one gives, not the material value of the gift.
HOW TO RESOLVE CERTAIN SITUATIONS
14. What difficulties do some couples face?
Some couples face cultural, family, or social pressures, such as very large guest lists, expectations of lavish weddings, or comparisons to other weddings. This leads us to believe that it won't always be easy to keep a simple wedding.
Many in the congregation can relate to these situations. However, recognizing these difficulties is the first step in handling them well. Jehovah understands these challenges and offers help.
Knowing that other brothers and sisters have gone through the same thing encourages us and reminds us that we are not alone. With humility and a spiritual focus, it is possible to overcome these pressures and maintain our goal of honoring Jehovah.
ADDITIONAL COMMENT
Many couples face cultural, familial, or social pressures, such as having too many guests or a very lavish wedding. Comparisons and other people's expectations can make it difficult to maintain simplicity, but recognizing these challenges helps manage them better.
15. Why is it important to pray about everything related to the wedding?
Prayer is essential because it helps us manage worries, make good decisions, and stay calm. This makes us realize that Jehovah wants to be involved in every detail of our lives. In the congregation, we clearly see how prayer strengthens the bond between engaged couples and their families.
Praying together before making decisions reduces disagreements and promotes peace. Seeing how Jehovah responds strengthens faith and trust in him. Starting marriage with regular communication with Jehovah creates a solid spiritual foundation that will be invaluable in the years to come.
16, 17. Why is good communication important when organizing a wedding?
Good communication allows for wise decisions and peace. This includes listening, being flexible, and speaking respectfully, especially with family members.
This makes us think that the way we resolve disagreements now will influence our marriage. In the congregation, it's appreciated when couples show tact and affection, even with family members who are not Witnesses.
Finding common ground and explaining decisions kindly can prevent unnecessary conflicts. Clear and loving communication honors Jehovah and strengthens family relationships, creating a more harmonious environment for everyone.
18. What will help the bride and groom to make everything go as planned? (1 Corinthians 14:40; see also the picture.)
Good organization will help everything run smoothly and reduce stress. This leads us to believe that planning is also a way of showing love and respect for others.
In the congregation, it's highly valued when everything is done in an orderly manner. Meeting with those who will be helping, reviewing the preparations, and respecting schedules demonstrates consideration.
When things are well organized, the bride and groom can enjoy the day more and the guests feel comfortable. Furthermore, it reflects the biblical principle of doing everything in a dignified and orderly manner.
ILLUSTRATION
A couple who are already engaged are explaining their wedding plans to several friends who are going to help them. The groom is showing them the seating arrangements for the reception on a tablet.
Planning the wedding carefully will help ensure that everything goes as planned. (See paragraph 18).
19. What will help the bride and groom control what happens during the reception?
Being prepared helps avoid problems. This includes explaining to family members what Christian weddings are like and assigning a mature sibling to help manage the reception.
This makes us reflect on the importance of anticipating potential difficulties. Within the congregation, this kind of foresight protects a positive atmosphere and prevents awkward situations.
When someone they trust helps supervise, the bride and groom can relax and enjoy the moment, knowing that everything is kept dignified and under control.
20. What should couples keep in mind?
Couples should remember that the wedding is just one day: the beginning of a life together serving Jehovah. This makes us think about what really matters in the long run.
In the congregation, it's appreciated when couples maintain a balanced perspective. A simple and dignified wedding can create very happy memories.
Trusting in Jehovah and letting himself be guided by him ensures that, when looking back, there will be no regrets, but gratitude and satisfaction for having put Jehovah first from the beginning of the marriage.
WHAT WOULD YOU ANSWER?
Why do couples want their wedding to honor Jehovah?
Because Jehovah is the Creator of marriage and its Father and Friend. Honoring him demonstrates gratitude, love, and a desire to begin marriage on a solid spiritual foundation.
What will help the couple create a dignified and appropriate atmosphere on their wedding day?
Apply biblical principles, take care of the entertainment, the music and the spiritual atmosphere, and act with foresight and good organization.
How will couples benefit if they choose to have a simple wedding?
They will avoid debt and stress, enjoy the day more, and begin their marriage with peace, unity, and a greater spiritual focus.
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